The Law of Attraction – Seven Ways to Get “Unstuck”

November 18, 2008 at 10:00 am 13 comments

In practicing the Law of Attraction, or manifesting your intentions, or just plain progressing in your chosen path, there will always be times when you feel “stuck.”  It may be that you feel bound by circumstances, or the scene isn’t playing out as expected, or maybe you’re just not sure where to go next – what move to make.  Although you may (or may not) intellectually understand that all setbacks are as temporary as you allow them to be, it can be difficult to keep from getting frustrated, or even giving up. 

First, let me reassure you that my life is NOT pie-in-the-sky perfection.  I love every second, even the challenging ones (especially the challenging ones!), because I recognize that no matter what the circumstances, this is MY life, and I have so much to grateful for.  Further, I know that my greatest growth will always come from adversity, not easy gains.  It is imperative to understand that being an average goddess – having that amazing power to maintain control over all of the varied facets of your world – is not about have a “perfect’ life where nothing goes wrong (and I postulate that that would, in fact, not be perfect either!), but about how you handle the challenges that will inevitably arise.

In the future, for the times when it seems all roads lead to dead ends, here are seven techniques for getting “unstuck.”


  1. Identify specific problem areas – don’t let yourself be overwhelmed by the nebulous sense of frustration that “nothing is going right.”  Sometimes, when you pinpoint the exact issue, you suddenly see that it is not as bad as you thought, as possibly even easily solved! 
  2. Now that you’ve pinpointed your issues, identify what you feel is “holding you back.”  Is it lack of time, resources, support, organization, education, fear of failure or of success?  Address that issue.  Is there anything that you can reasonably do to rectify it?  If you’re not sure, ask for help!  It’s amazing how often we get hung up on feeling like we have to solve every problem on our own, when there may be someone with an answer within arm’s reach!
  3. Recognize that everything you need to succeed already exists, and will come to you if you’ll allow it!  Stop telling yourself that you can’t have something.  Instead, try believing that you CAN!  The universe wants to give you everything you want, but when you’re busy saying “I can’t have ______,” the universe interprets that to mean that you don’t really want it!
  4. When you put a question out to the universe, stop trying to figure out the answer!  Get quiet enough so that the universe (or God, or your creative source, or whatever you call that inner voice that is WAY smarter than you) has a chance to get a word in edgewise!  Then trust your instincts as you take action – they are there to guide you. 
  5. Let go of the outcome.  I’m not saying that you shouldn’t pursue your dreams, but if at every step of the way the cards seem stacked against you, it may be that you are pushing toward something that is not in your best interest, or at least going about it in the wrong way!
  6. Realize that you don’t always need to be “in control.”  Your human consciousness – your ego – is so finite, you cannot possibly see all potential paths and outcomes… so what makes you suppose you can control them?  Relax!  The universe is always acting for your highest good!  Why not go with the flow instead of fighting the current?  You might be surprised to discover that more often than not, it carries you where you wished to go.
  7. Remember that at all times, every moment, you are exactly where you are supposed to be.  It goes back to the old mantra, “Be Here Now.”  There is no other time or place you can be, so take three deep breaths and just be grateful to be alive.  You are only as “stuck” as you believe you are.  Take this gift that is the present moment, and see what lesson it offers you.  This will almost always free you to continue moving forward.


Wishing you a passionate, prosperous, and powerful day!
a.k.a. The Average Goddess 

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13 Comments Add your own

  • 1. successfulfather  |  November 19, 2008 at 12:19 pm

    Great list. I especially like #7. If most people beleived this one a little more, they would have a lot less stress in their lives.

  • 2. averagegoddess  |  November 19, 2008 at 8:54 pm

    Thanks successfulfather – I also think it’s the toughest one on the list… at least it is for me! 🙂

  • 3. Ron Towns  |  November 20, 2008 at 3:58 pm

    The law of attraction only works if your mind is open to opportunity knocking!! I’ve recently learned of an amazing way to open the mind to the opportunities fulfilling your goals.

    The subconscious mind is much more powerful than most give it credit for! You may not realize, but your subconscious thoughts translate into habits- your conscious mind will actually try to execute your subconscious thoughts. So, in essence, changing your thoughts into more positive ones will create more productive habits. This way, you can better achieve your goals.

    I use visualization every single day to calm my nerves and create focus around my goals and desired outcomes in life.

    Another method I use on top of this is the use of a vision boards. Have you ever heard of them? They are images pasted on a board that represent your hopes, dreams, and goals. Studying these boards every days plants seeds of these goals within your subconscious mind.

    John Assaraf does a better job of explaining this and showing you how to do it in his new book “The Complete Vision Board Kit.” I downloaded the free chapter here at

  • 4. SUELLEN SUTHERLAND  |  November 22, 2008 at 4:53 am

    all 7 are true to living The Law of Attraction. leave it to the universe to provide what you want. And it never provides how you think it will.

  • 5. dharmathecat  |  November 22, 2008 at 5:31 am

    Thanks, I can’t believe I found your blog at this time, where everything you wrote is so timely for me, and I have recently found “The law of attraction” and am exploring more about it and the process. After deleting my previous blog site, in desperation and annoyance, I finally decided to restart, and within a few clicks I stumbled ??? across your blog…serendipity maybe?


  • 6. averagegoddess  |  November 22, 2008 at 7:59 am

    Good morning Vicki – Well I’m so happy you found me! Serendipity?? No such animal! 🙂 Just you, finding what you needed, at the time that was best! I hope you have much success with this round of your blog. Visit me on Twitter any time if you’d like to chat!

  • 7. averagegoddess  |  November 22, 2008 at 8:02 am

    Suellen – ain’t that the truth??

  • 8. PaintandSoul  |  November 24, 2008 at 1:40 pm

    I love this list because it’s a great way to sort of revisit your current problems with an action plan – and then choose how to handle them from a less frustrated place. Action plans and lists, my best friends in the entire world!

    This entry got starred in my reader for future reference use. It also reminded me I should be handling my current long term problem in a healthier way – oh my thesis, how you seem to plague me because I am so afraid of failing at you.

  • 9. Katie Starlets  |  November 24, 2008 at 1:47 pm

    Nice list, thank you. If I may, I would just add that 8) Nothing is more important than that you feel good. The Universe doesn’t simply bring us what we think about, it brings us what we feel about what we think about. I don’t think the importance can over stated that it’s essential that we take no action from a negative feeling place. If we can find our way to the best feeling we have access to and then take action from the better feeling place, then our success is much more assured.

    Thank you, Kristy, for putting your wisdom out there.


  • 10. averagegoddess  |  November 24, 2008 at 9:38 pm

    Thank YOU Katie – that’s a very valid point. Addendum to all said above: FEEL GOOD NOW. This also relates to gratitude for this moment, which is a whole separate article. If you are feeling grateful for all the good in your life in this moment, you can’t help but be uplifted. Best wishes Katie!

  • 11. averagegoddess  |  November 24, 2008 at 9:41 pm

    Paint – So true, and we ALL do it… and we rarely admit what it is that we’re afraid of – so good on you for making it to step one. I hope this helps you going forward… I know it’s done a world of good for me… It brought me you and Lime!

  • 12. Cassie  |  November 25, 2008 at 12:06 pm

    Kristy, I love this post!
    I haven’t been on-line for a bit and the universe brought me to your post first thing! Oh how I need your uplifting wisdom right now lady. #6 & #7 are my ones to work on, hopefully I can pull myself outta this funk!


  • 13. averagegoddess  |  December 1, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    Cassie – Everything happens EXACTLY as it should, see? 🙂 You don’t have to de-funk alone dahling. Email any time!


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