Real Women Cook Steak

September 4, 2008 at 12:06 am 15 comments

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Not too long ago, I brought home a couple of thick, tender steaks that had been calling me from the grocery shelf.  (And FYI, I now always try to buy meats with the EPA’s new humane certification labels.)  Having been very much looking forward to them all week, I was a tad disappointed when my beloved husband (who is an excellent cook) handed me a little piece of leather off the grill.  We’re pretty (gently) honest with each other about our cooking, and when he commented that he knew he should have pulled the steaks off sooner, but got distracted by the potatoes, I said, “Yeah, ya should’ve.”  To which he responded, “Humph.  I’ve never seen YOU cook steak!”  Behold!  The gauntlet – here at my feet!  Well, can’t just leave it there, right?  So I picked it up… he just didn’t know it. 

I’m at the grocery store again yesterday, and there they are… two thick, lovely slabs of tenderloin… mmmmm…  Into the cart with you, my dazzling juicy friends – thy death shall NOT have been in vain… Together, we shall prove A POINT!!  See, here’s the thing:  my husband is a “wing it,” type of guy.  I am a “plan-it-to-the-eyeballs” type of girl.  When it comes to cooking, he has a couple of absolutely homerun recipes, and he gets really irritated when I won’t let him experiment with them.  My view is, if it’s perfect, LEAVE IT ALONE!  Wanna guess what happens when he messes with it?  Yeah, less good.  He also has this tendency to find great recipes in magazines, and then forget what magazine they’re in, but still want to make the dish.  So what does he do?  He wings it.  Sometimes that’s ok… sometimes not so much.  I give him kudos for cooking cojones, but to me, the point is to have something yummy at the end.  I am NOT a chef, and I’m not in this for artistic expression, sorry.  When I find a recipe, I rip it out, or tag it and write it down.  Then I follow it, to the letter.  Here’s my philosophy:  This person has already spent a great deal of time perfecting this dish, and it was probably tested by the food editor before publishing.  Let’s try it THEIR way first, and if I don’t like it, THEN I can make changes.  How do you know what to change if you’ve never tasted it??  Alternatively, if I’m going to cook something I have no idea how to handle, you all know me well enough by now to know what I’m gonna do… (Thank you AGAIN Dane Cook.)  I’m gonna Google that sh*t.  Here’s how I learned to cook a steak, in about five minutes.

Ian got home from work, sees the steaks on the counter and says, “You’re cooking STEAK??  Moving in on my turf, huh?”  I just smiled.  He then starts hovering nervously, as he notices they are buck naked on the plate.  (So cute!  I love this guy.)  I tell him to get out of my space and go take a shower.  As he heads off, he says, “I’m just sayin’, the longer they marinate, the better the flavor is.”  To which I replied, “Thanks hon.  They’re not getting marinated,” and I shoved him out the door before his eyes could pop out of his head.  A little oil, pepper, garlic powder, rosemary, and piping hot skillet later, I have two lovely, crusty, near edible slabs.  Into the oven with them!  A little bleu cheese, some capers, and VOILA!  Perfection… on my first try.  Oh, they were juicy.  Oh, they were tender!  Oh, they were seared on the outside, pink on the inside…  yum yum yum yum yum yum YUM!  WIN!

So is there a moral to this story, or did I just want to brag about my steak cooking prowess?  Both, actually.  Having bragged sufficiently, I shall share the moral.  There are a million things in this world that you don’t know how to do, but that’s a ridiculous reason to not attempt them.  Depending on your personality, you can do things my husband’s way, and leap in face first (!), or you can recognize that there are lots of people out there who DO know how to do those things… possibly very well.  With the infinity of the ‘net at your fingertips, you can get expert advice without leaving your sofa.  So wikihow, askhow, or google “how,” then go DO it.  Your success might surprise you… and everyone else!

All my love, Kristy

P.S.  I conceded that he is still the grill master… mostly because I have no interest in grilling… yet. 😉

P.P.S.  Wine for the night (duh) was Cellar No. 8 Red Zinfandel.  Holy moses.  I don’t actually like the flavor quite as much as I enjoy the cabernet (one of our mostest favorites), but dear HaySOOS it goes RIGHT to your head.  I’m actually drinking a glass now, and it’s already impairing my typing… what kind of crazy grapes are these??!?  Generally speaking, Cellar No. 8 provides perfect proof that a wine doesn’t have to be expensive to be exquisite.  I challenge you to serve the cab or merlot to your snobbiest wine snob friends.  Phenomenal.

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  • 1. limeliteshines  |  September 5, 2008 at 12:09 am

    I challenge you to try this for your fillets next time.

    Season your steaks however you wish . . marinate, oil . . what have you. BUT!! Before you sear them in the pan, put them in a 250/275 degree oven FIRST . . . about 10 to 15 minutes per steak. Then sear them in the pan to get the desired crust, and pop them back in your (now higher temp.) oven. The steak will melt like butter in your mouth.

    If you remember . . . give it a try . . . and then compare to this recent steak cooking. 🙂 I’d love to see which you like better!

    Oooh fantastic . . more wine recommendations. 🙂

    I’m definitely a planner. I’ll Google/Wikihow/ etc etc until I find the perfect answer. I spend more time PLANNING to cook than I actually do cooking!

  • 2. averagegoddess  |  September 5, 2008 at 11:56 am

    I will ABSOLUTELY give that a go next time. Actually, it might help in the final cooking stages – I had to put it back in the oven for an extra few minutes each side to get the color I wanted, so that could speed it up a bit. Thanks!!

  • 3. PaintandSoul  |  September 5, 2008 at 3:05 pm

    Mmmmm, steak. I heart your cooking blogs. And I google EVERYTHING. I think I’m addicted to just getting the responses sometimes… just to marvel at them. I wish I liked wine, haha, but I can’t stand it….

  • 4. averagegoddess  |  September 6, 2008 at 11:39 am

    Can’t stand wi… … … Wha??? *shakes head in bewildered disbelief*

  • 5. cashlessncr  |  September 7, 2008 at 3:34 pm

    Wow *eyes wide*
    Since I’m not done losing weight yet, I haven’t been drinking much wine. Its been hard, since a lovely glass of red with a meal is one of life’s great pleasures. But I hate opening a bottle because I find it hard not to finish it.

    Lately, though, I’ve discovered that one of my favorites, Big House Red, is now being packaged in 4 packs of 2 glass sized bottles. Its just the portion control I was looking for!

  • 6. Paintandsoul  |  September 7, 2008 at 3:36 pm

    Ever heard of a supertaster? That’s me! Oh and a neat side effect though is I know what kind of martini or other vodka based yummy will pair best with any meal.

  • 7. Cali  |  September 8, 2008 at 12:09 am

    I am all about recipes. I also love when others leave comments and suggestions about recipes I find on line. I always follow recipes to the T the first time too,… although if it doesn’t call for garlic I am usually adding a clove or two because my DH and I are addicted to it – ha, ha. My DH is all about ‘doctoring up’ things, although he usually waits until I’m done and he just adds things to his plate. Sometimes it makes it better,… sometimes not. If it is then I let him add it to the whole dish and then make notes on the recipe. And google is the BEST thing ever invented. One question for you, though, since you are SUCH a cooking genius and you always are trying new things. Got any suggestions for chic peas? Looking for a recipe that is NOT a hummus. Thanks babe!!

  • 8. averagegoddess  |  September 8, 2008 at 1:51 pm

    Are you listening Luis?? Cali called ME a COOKING GENIUS. I have to go make a banner or something… maybe throw some confetti. Watch out, my ego may explode. *KABLOOEY!!*

  • 9. averagegoddess  |  September 8, 2008 at 1:53 pm

    Ok, not quite sure what happened there, but WordPress just decided to post my reply before I was done. Ahem.

    Cali – I actually DO have a recipe for chickpeas… a couple of them! One of them is a salad, and the other a snack. I shall blog them just for you. 🙂

    Ok WordPress, NOW you may post my reply.

  • 10. averagegoddess  |  September 8, 2008 at 2:20 pm

    Paint – I wonder what kind of niche there is for a professional “vodka pairer?” You should look into it!

  • 11. averagegoddess  |  September 8, 2008 at 2:25 pm

    Cash – I went through the same thing when I was first losing weight, and ended up not drinking wine for months, which really was sad for me because I absolutely ADORE it. As I have made the journey much more pleasantly (and sanely) this time around, I have realized that occasionally having to dispose of an unfinished bottle is well worth the pleasure of the single glass I drank. Here’s something else that has made a huge difference: My husband found wine corks that keep the wine fresh for up to three weeks! They twist onto the top for an airtight seal. I will ask him where he found them, and see if I can find you the brand. No one should be without a lovely red when they want one! *stands up and shakes fist*

  • 12. Jenn  |  September 11, 2008 at 12:17 am

    OOOHhhhhhhhhh, twist-on corks??? Yes, please! And I will definitely have to try the merlot or even the Zin.

  • 13. averagegoddess  |  September 12, 2008 at 1:08 pm

    Stay tuned – more on the twist-on corks to come!

  • 14. Cassie  |  September 17, 2008 at 4:32 pm

    I love it!
    As you know I am a cooking wiz and I am also a planner, so take that how you will!
    And I agree, no one should EVER EVER have to go without a glass (or two) of wine).

  • 15. averagegoddess  |  September 19, 2008 at 7:34 am

    I aspire to one day become a cooking wiz… I may need to apprentice under you for a bit…


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