Dangerously European

August 4, 2008 at 5:54 pm 6 comments

Days off.  I love them.  I love my workdays, too, but in a much different way.  Since “discovering” the laws of the universe some nine months ago (“discovering” in the same sense that Christopher Columbus “discovered” America), my life has taken on this sort of golden shimmer in the light of my appreciation for all the gifts that I’ve been given.  I’ve been learning to let my body and my intuition guide me, rather than my sense of obligation.  Can I just take a moment to tell you how much HAPPIER I am?  Further, let me tell you how much happier everyone around me is.  I’m not burdening my coworkers with my constant sarcasm and negativity (brilliantly snarky though I am).  My husband comes home to a happy wife, and one who frequently has dinner ready (just because I feel like it), instead of a harpy ready to explode with all the drama of the day.  My mother and I can spend copious amounts of quality time together without her worrying whether I’m “really ok.”  My friends see and hear more from me than they ever did before.  All of this, just because I’m doing what I want to do anyway.  It infuses me with energy, with passion, with a sense of joie de vivre.

Which brings me back to my days off.  In preparation for the launch of my next big project, and possibly the next phase of my life, my new favoritest-thing-in-the-whole-world to do, is to sit out on my patio, soaking up what few glorious rays of summer we’re gifted with in the Chicago area, drinking wine, listening to music, and writing away.  I’ve come to term my new way of life as “dangerously European.”  See, I live in the burbs, and my neighbors are less than 30 feet from me.  In fact, I’d bet they’re at their kitchen table watching me right now, shaking their heads at my rapidly disappearing wine.  Oh, did I mention it’s 10:30am?  Haha! 

I get up at 6 (although today I slept in till almost 7:00!), and I was just saying to my mom this morning via IM (which has revolutionized our relationship – more on that in another blog), how much I’ve grown to love the mornings – to the point that I feel a little bad for people who steadfastly proclaim themselves “NOT morning people.”  That used to be me.  Now I see that the morning has a quiet, and an energy, and a smell I find virtually addictive.  By 10:30, I’ve caught up on emails, posted to my favorite forums, chatted with Mom, fed the cats and cleaned the litter, eaten breakfast, and worked out.  I’m due some down time!  Thus you find me here, typing away to you, my darlings, with a veritable picnic spread out beside me.  My feet are on the patio table, as I recline in my chair with my computer on my lap, and to my right is a blue checkered kitchen towel with the following:  a bunch of organic grapes, a round of Laughing Cow French Onion cheese wedges, organic crackers of the Ritz type, a bag of organic whole wheat tortilla chips, a jar of Wild Garden organic hummus, a bottle of water (glass, that originally held Tazo organic green tea and has been refilled hundreds of times to reduce landfill waste), a bottle of merlot, a bottle opener, and a glass.  Good golly Miss Molly, it is GOOD to be me right now.  (Well, anytime, but ESPECIALLY right now.)

So what’s my point?  My point is just this:  My toilets need scrubbing.  My car needs to be picked up at the dealership.  My bushes need pruning, and I haven’t done laundry in over a week.  SO WHAT?!?!  Let me ask you this – when would be a GOOD time to do what I’m doing?  Many people’s answer to that would be, “Never.”  That’s too bad, because they’ll probably never get the chance.  My answer is, “Right now, and as often as possible.”  When is the last time you showed up to work after a day off and said, “Man, yesterday was AWESOME!  I did laundry, and dishes, and for the coup-de-grace, I VACCUUMED!”  Um, yeah, right.  Do you see where I’m going with this?  There will always, ALWAYS be things you need to get done.  It’s part and parcel of being a grown-up.  Period.  If you don’t MAKE the time to do the things that bring you pleasure, you may run out of time before you know it.  Gotta go, the cicadas are singing my favorite song.

How will you experience joy in your next day off?  Leave me a comment and tell me about it!

All my love,


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IMing with Mom

6 Comments Add your own

  • 1. PaintandSoul  |  August 14, 2008 at 6:18 am

    Letting something other than obligation guide you….. what a lovely idea. 🙂 I have to say, the difference in your tone has been noticeable over time. Isn’t it nice when life gives us the time, the information, and the space to change ourselves for the better? That’s all I ask for every day that I’m alive.

  • 2. averagegoddess  |  August 14, 2008 at 1:16 pm

    The hardest part is paying enough attention so that when life delivers you those things, you are aware enough to recognize them!

  • 3. jandymordan  |  August 26, 2008 at 2:56 pm

    ahh, i see you’ve learned the secret! i have known it my whole life, i just didn’t realise it until a year and a half ago. 😉

    in this beautiful last leg of summer, i enjoy the outdoors every day off. no matter what the weather! i love every moment of it. and i still haven’t unpacked half of my things from when i moved here last may! why waste a beautiful day off going through boxes of things, that have little matter in the first place 🙂 i am too busy living in the moment!

  • 4. averagegoddess  |  August 26, 2008 at 3:57 pm

    I’m with you 110%. When I was “learning” about these things, it wasn’t learning like in geometry, where you’re trying to wrap your head around a totally new concept, but more like, “Oh, of course that’s why life works that way. That makes perfect sense.” It’s been a constant summer road trip since!

  • 5. Carolyn  |  August 30, 2008 at 4:50 pm

    I would love to hear more about the laws of the universe. Also, I would love to know more about being “dangerously European.”

  • 6. averagegoddess  |  August 31, 2008 at 1:08 am

    Come by any time you’re off on a Monday or Tuesday, and we can SO practice being dangerously european together… I suspect you would be AWESOME at it. 🙂


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